According to a recent study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior , "revenge sex" is real, with dumped partners using sex to get over their ex-partner and also using it as a form of revenge in the aftermath of a breakup. Members of the lonely hearts club are often conflicted about engaging in revenge, or rebound sex after a breakup because it can either give them a sultry ego boost, or it can end up in a naked nightmare. This kind of sex is the first sexual experience that occurs right after a breakup, opening the door to new love experiences. People on the rebound are typically thought to be emotionally vulnerable because of feelings of distress, anger, loss, and low self-esteem brought on by the recent loss of a relationship partner. A rebound no-strings-attached relationship may mitigate the hurt, shame, and pain of a break-up for partners, says Psychology Today. The heightened risk of making poor or risky sexual choices are usually high for those who were dumped or were in more committed long-term relationships.
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Experiences of humiliation, unjust hurt caused by another or anger naturally, elicit the desire to seek revenge and fantasies of revenge. The current study examined the associations between a history of traumatic events and feelings of injustice and levels of desire for revenge-seeking and fantasies of revenge. Specifically, it tested whether feelings of injustice mediated the associations between the number of past traumatic events and the desire for revenge or revenge fantasies. The results showed positive associations between feelings of injustice and the desire for revenge and revenge fantasies. The mediation model indicated that feelings of injustice mediated the associations between the number of previous traumatic events and the desire for revenge or revenge fantasies.
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Most of us have been there. We come to the end of a long relationship with a person we trusted and loved and then -- boom -- just like that it's over and we feel like someone dropped us flat on our faces. There's a period of mourning that occurs after a relationship ends, but instead of seeking solitary confinement and sitting in a quiet room reflecting on old times and trying to move on, some of us pursue I'm talking about sex, folks.
As anyone who has become addicted to ABC's hit melodrama "Revenge" now knows, vengeance walks the fine line between desire and violence physical or other. The definition of "revenge" is the opportunity to gain satisfaction through retaliation. And in some cases, we seek our revenge in bed. While revenge sex might not feel like a way of taking the moral high road, this act, both emotionally charged and carnally fueled, the impulse to have it is thoroughly human. Sometimes you may be having it without even realizing you are.