Author: Dennis Najee. This topic came up on my social networking site yesterday and I thought I would pass along a few comments to you about it. Mentoring is a viable way for a new person to learn about this lifestyle. Basically, in this scenario, an experienced person is chosen to help guide the new person through the pitfalls of the early stages of the lifestyle. We are involved with something that is so vastly different from the traditional that people are often overwhelmed with what they see.
There are mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSM it is sometimes recommended to newbies to pick up a mentor but are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started out there were good people to be around and not so great people that left their mark on me. I do wish that people had lead me to learn what a mentor is and how to go about finding one that is right for me.
This article was one I had not planned to write. It really is not a fun topic; it is kind of dull and boring. Since my aim has always been to be fun to read, writing an article about mentors seems about as exciting as writing about great moments in hubcap history.
No one needs anything in BDSM other than consent, communication, and trust. The last of those develops once you have the first two. But some newbie kinksters want a mentor. When you connect with the right person, a mentor can be an excellent sounding board and support for you as you learn and grow.